Last week was super busy and in general, everything was good. This week in the other hand, had a low start since last Monday was a holiday here in Chile, so I have been a little lost with the thing I had to do. What I did know for sure was that I had to have this post ready for today. I’ve been wanting to write about the reasons why long distance relationships are a good idea for a long time now.
Many ask why I decided to give my relationship a chance, why did I keep trying even though it was most likely to not work out. I had my reasons, but the most important one was: I prefer to risk it and try rather than not. I didn’t want to be older and wonder what would have happened if I were braver. You know… in my case, it’s not only a common long-distance relationship. It is an international one! We have to travel abroad, spend money and think about what implies being together in the future. At some point, one has to move to live in another country.
11 Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Are A Good Idea. Not everything has to be bad! Click To Tweet
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If you are reading this, it means that a long distance relationship is on your stars and you might 1) be asking yourself if it’s a good idea or 2) you are already in one and you want to remind yourself why you took that chance in the first place. No matter the reason why you are here, I want to tell you… we are in this together! You aren’t alone and I’m here to talk with you if you need it. You can contact me here or through my social media!
I would also recommend making your own list of reasons why long distance relationships are a good idea. This can be something very personal and it can be important in those moments when you are struggling the most.
1. It Makes You Trust Your Partner More
This is something you don’t think about in the beginning, but it’s a benefit you see in the long run. Trusting your partner before starting a long distance relationship is key, but let’s be honest here. It can be super hard during those first months. So in general, distance helps to resolve your trust issues and to grow trust exponentially. Definitely, a good reasons to start a long distance relationship!
As a personal note, it took me about six months to truly trust my boyfriend. I didn’t know his friends, and especially his girl friends. Between my own insecurities and the fact that I’m a jealous person, it was super hard to get used to it. We were both in college and we all know a lot of drama can come those years.
Distance helps to resolve your trust issues and to grow trust exponentially. Definitely, a good reasons to start a long distance relationship! Click To Tweet2. Consider The Benefits of Time Apart
Again, this is something you won’t appreciate during the firsts months of being separated from your significant other. Obviously. After all, the distance is the main reasons why you are doubting to start a long distance relationship.
One of the best benefits of why long distance relationships are a good idea is that it helps you focus on your own goals, and that’s super important! Take a look at my post about the Benefits Of Long Distance Relationships and you will see that not everything is bad! You can gain many things from it.
One of the best benefits of why long distance relationships are a good idea is that it helps you focus on your own goals, and that's super important! Click To Tweet
3. You Get To Travel A Lot
Now you have an excuse to do any touristy things you want! Depending on how far you are from each other you will have to get plane tickets or just drive, but either way, it means you will have to travel somewhere else. Maybe you might want to meet halfway (because it can be cheaper) or plan a vacation with the excuse of being together.
To be honest, every time you see each other will feel like a vacation. Those are the moments you will spend solely with your boyfriend or girlfriend. With no distractions.
To be honest, every time you see each other will feel like a vacation. Those are the moments you will spend solely with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Click To Tweet4. The Relationship Is More Than Physical
Since you can’t see each other all the time, you develop a different type of intimacy. It goes beyond having to be next to each other all the time. It’s about knowing the other person on a deeper level, and connecting in a different way. You get to know their fears, their plans for the future and their goals in life. Texting someone (especially at night) can be a great opportunity to know different sides of that person, especially their thoughts on certain topics.
Without even noticing, you can start a conversation out of a meme or a video! That exchange of views can end up being an intense conversation. Or at least that has happened to me. After watching a video, we would say our opinions about something, that without the video, we would never think to discuss before, and that can unleash an interesting debate.
When there’s no other option besides talking, you take it as an opportunity to know better your significant other. You can be surprised all the things you can learn from long conversations.
When there's no other option besides talking, you take it as an opportunity to know better your significant other. You can be surprised all the things you can learn from long conversations. Click To Tweet5. It’s Worth The Risk
Okay, this is for sure the number one reason why long distance relationships area good idea. When you think about taking that step is because the option of not being in a relationship with the person you love is unthinkable. You can’t image waking up without a ‘Good morning’ text from that person or not having next to you that special person who has your back no matter what.
Even if things don’t work out, taking the chance about this matter can be key. You can see sides of that person you never thought you could, and let’s be honest, it can test many issues in a relationship. Like fidelity. Or the fact that you will know if that person is really into you no matter how many miles are in between. Those are very important points!
When you think about start a long distance relationship is because the option of not being in a relationship with the person you love is unthinkable. Click To Tweet
6. You Create Innovative Ways To Bond
Just like reason number four, since you can’t be physically together all the time, you create different ways to keep sparks flying. To keep the relationship going no matter how far you are from each other. You can be on different continents, but if you develop different ways to bond, everything will go smoothly.
It can be a little difficult to find things that work for both of you. The internet is full of those ideas too! You can get some activity ideas for long distance relationships here. Texting is not the only thing you can do to connect with your boyfriend or girlfriend. The idea is to get creative!
You can be on different continents, but if you develop different ways to bond, everything will go smoothly. Click To Tweet7. It Is The Ultimate Test
As a general rule, if you can survive this, you can survive anything. I don’t want to generalize since life is always surprising you. But in most cases, if your long-distance relationship is successful, you can rest assured that your relationship is pretty strong.
You already know how to communicate and learned many things from each other while being apart. So at moments of difficulty, you should be ready to handle them without unnecessary fights. You know how hard is fighting over the phone or text, so doing it in person is way easier.
You got this! Your relationship is golden after you go through the distance.
In most cases, if your long-distance relationship is successful, you can rest assured that your relationship is pretty strong. Click To Tweet8. Everything Will Mean More For You Both
Seeing each other after being away for –maybe– months it makes you appreciate your partner so much more. You cherish those moments you have together and know that fighting over stupid things is not worth it (or at least you try not to. We all have bad days).
Going out, watching movies, and waking up next to each other means way more than before. Every small detail is special for both of you. It makes you realized how those simple gestures mean way more. Like I said before, maybe you won’t realize in the beginning all these reasons why long distance relationships are a good idea, but believe me, it’s something you learn to appreciate.
Every small detail is special for both of you. It makes you realized how those simple gestures mean way more when you are in a long distance relationship. Click To Tweet
9. You Get To Be More Independent
Are you an independent gal? Then you need to see the good side of this! I am, and I’m happy to have so much time for myself especially because my blog takes so much time from me. I text throughout the day with my boyfriend, if I’m busy, I let him know I would text him back when I take a break. That’s it!
We know that relationships consume a lot of time, not only the relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Also with friends and family, and why not to include the relationship with yourself. You need to balance every aspect of your life, adding your job, school or any other activity. It can be hard! So while you are in a long distance relationship you can focus on other things too!
Just make sure to do make time for your boyfriend. Talk on the phone before going to bed, or make sure to text a little during the day, or pick a day to video chat without missing a date. That is a must!
While you are in a long distance relationship you can focus on other things too! Click To Tweet10. The Idea Of Breaking Up Is Not Even An Option For You
It can be a hard decision and something you wish you didn’t have to go through. Distance is scary for many reasons, but it’s up to each of you to make the most of the relationship. If the love is so strong you can make it work no matter what. For me, it was like that. Not being in a relationship with my boyfriend wasn’t an option. Only being friends to him without having the possibility of kissing him? No thank you!
You can keep the love alive in different ways, it’s going to be a challenge, but one you can easily pass with flying colors if you both are willing to go through it. Think about it, but not only with your head, listen to your heart as well. Give it a try, even if you think long distance relationships aren’t for you. The time apart might not be that bad either. Time flies anyway!
Distance is scary for many reasons, but it's up to each of you to make the most of the relationship. If the love is so strong you can make it work no matter what. Click To Tweet11. Goodbyes Aren’t Forever
Another very important reason why long distance relationships are a good idea! This is a significant thing to remember when things get rough. I have been in an international long distance relationship for three years now. We started it before knowing when the distance was going to be over, we just thought it was the best decision. The option of not being together was a no for both of us. We just let destiny play all the cards while we enjoy (and grow) our relationship.
Still, we don’t exactly when are we going to end the distance. Hopefully next year, but there are so many things to do before we can actually live in the same country. We pray everything will work out, so many factors are in between that it makes harder to move in together. But hey! We are in love and we will burn all the options before giving up.
In a long distance relationship... goodbyes aren't forever! It's something you can't forget. Especially when things get hard Click To TweetWhat are your thoughts on this? Are long distance relationships a good idea in your opinion? Would you be willing to go through it? Let me know in the comments!
Sincerely, Melissa
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Kelly says
I am in a LDR, 1500 miles apart from my bf. We knew each other in grade school, lost touch, moved, both for married and had kids and now both going through divorces. It was hard to even think about doing a long distance at first, but I can’t imagine my life without him in it at all. It is very tough not having him with me full time right now, but he’s worth it and I can’t wait and we have already had a good start to adventures together. We try and travel to see each other at least once monthly if it works and so far 5 months later, I can’t wait for the next meeting.
Melissa says
This is a beautiful story, Kelly. I’m happy to hear that you guys try the best to see each other each month. Long distance are tough, so when it’s possible travel to see each other. I wish you the best!