Hey there, lovelies! If you are part of my email list or if you have been reading my personal posts, you know that I have been talking a lot about the Law of Attraction and the power of a positive attitude.
This is something I have been learning in the last two years, but I have been getting more into it since the end of last year; and let me tell you, it changed my life.
That sounds very dramatic, but it’s the truth.
Before Positive Attitude
Before knowing about the law of attraction, I would normally use reversal psychology with myself.
For example, I would tell myself “I’m definitely going to fail this test”. For two reasons: 1) that way I would have low exceptions with my grade. If I ended up failing I wouldn’t be that upset, and 2) If I truly believed I was going to fail that test, the opposite would happen.
Yes, I know. It doesn’t make any sense. My brain is weird and I’m trying to fix those problems.
Anyway, now that I know the right way to use the Law of Attraction, I feel less confused and more positive.
Before changing my way of thinking I was very pessimistic and negative. I was the person with a backup plan for the backup plan. I needed options in case of something wasn’t going to work out.
I was sure that it wasn’t going to work so having a ‘Plan B’ was my way of saying: “Life, you want to fuck with me, but I won’t let you”.
Thinking like that, meant that I was in constant state of stress. That and worrying about the future 24/7 were the main reasons why my quarter-life crisis triggered when I was 22 years old.
It sucked, my plan A didn’t work out, plan B didn’t really help, and plan C wasn’t really what I wanted. At that point, my life wasn’t going in the direction I wanted. So yeah, a big mental breakdown happened.
Now that I think about it, I’m grateful of that situation. I felt like shit and like a failure for a long time, but the distress was worth it. It led me to a new life where I’m happy.
Still struggling, but happy.Still struggling, but happy. Click To Tweet
That positive attitude is what is changing my life and the way I enjoy life. At the end of the day, the important thing is to live in the present.
Be Aware Of Toxic Positivity
Now, there’s positivity and toxic positivity, but that’s something I will talk about in a different post.
I mention this for two reasons. The first one is to explain that my life is not only rainbows and unicorns. That my head is only full of smiling emojis.
I still struggle, I still doubt myself, I still worry about the future, I can still fail or feel disappointed over something that didn’t work out.
The difference is how you deal with those feelings. If you fail, it’s ok because that mistake is having you something valuable. Or maybe it just wasn’t the right moment. Focus on what you learned while you were trying.
The second reason why I mention this is because I have seen people online preaching this toxic positivity, and I want you to be aware of that.
After Positive Attitude
Like I said in the beginning of this post, I started seriously believing and practicing the Law of Attraction at the end of last year.
My mom and I attended a few workshops about that topic and others with similar ones, and I was fascinated by the power of them.
Something that I realized is that, all of those topics had something in common: a positive attitude.
That’s the key to success and the most important thing you need before you start attracting.A positive attitude is the key to success and the most important thing you need before start attracting. Click To Tweet
You need to erase all negative thoughts out of your mind.
That is easier said than done. Especially when your head is set up to produce negative thoughts 24/7.
In that case, all you have to do is to make sure to acknowledge those thoughts and just tell them goodbye. It’s like saying, “you are here but I don’t want you, so byeeee”
It’s all process and you need to fight those toxic beliefs that were inserted by either society or your family. You know, things like: “you are smart if you are good in math” or “all pretty girls are skinny”.
Once you start getting rid of those toxic thoughts, you will start producing more positive ones.Once you start getting rid of those toxic thoughts, you will start producing more positive ones. Click To Tweet
That’s the final goal.
Now that my beliefs are slowly changing, I’m starting to feel happier. I worry less and I trust myself even more.
I trust myself to make the right decisions and I don’t worry about the outcome. Why? Because whatever happens it will teach me an important lesson. I’m grateful for that.
I don’t worry about failing. I mean, yes; It sucks a lot to fail and go through that pain. Who wants that? Yet there’s always a reason behind that failure. Let me give you an example.
In 2015 I studied abroad in the US (I’m from Chile btw!), but before going there I went through some hardships that made me think‘Okay, maybe the universe doesn’t want me to go’.
But my mom (as awesome as she is) kept saying that everything that was going on, was for a reason. If I failed the first time, I would totally make it happen the second one, and it was true.
In retrospect, all those bumps in the road were in fact, for a reason. You know why? I was about to meet my boyfriend there. Starting a beautiful long distance relationship.
Quotes like “Rejection is God’s way of saying: wrong direction” or “When a door closes, another opens” are true.
You have to know that it is important to look on the bright side of any situation. Not only to keep being positive but to also improve your self-esteem.
What Helped Me Reach A Positive Attitude
I need to thank my mom for teaching me this and being there for me. She’s the one that helped me to be more positive and introduced me to Ho’oponopono.
Now, you might be asking yourself what’s that. In simple words Hoʻoponopono is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Which is very helpful to stop negative thoughts. I definitely recommend looking more into it.
Mabel Katz is the one expert that my mom and I follow. We love how she explains things! You can follow her on her social media channels, but she mainly speaks in Spanish; although all her books are translated in different languages.
You can find her book The Easiest Way (Special Edition) on Amazon for only $16.87 (paperback). I definitely recommend it!
Also, surround yourself with like-minded people to help you when you struggle. For me that person is my mom, without her and her daily support I wouldn’t be writing this now.
So what do you think? Do you currently practice having a positive attitude? What do you do when things don’t go as planned? Let me know in the comments!
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in April 2017 and it has been updated with new links and information.