Here I am, back with another post about LDRs! This time is all about bittersweet moments every long distance relationship couple can relate to. We know there are many, but for me, these are the most common and the ones I know many of you have gone through too.
In these three years of relationship with my boyfriend, I have learned how to enjoy every moment with him. Even though I feel sad during the situation. I want to bring with me all good memories when I was with him, so I try not to mix the happy feelings with other things. Although, I know sometimes is hard to avoid those feelings.
By definition, bittersweet is an emotion containing a mixture of sadness and happiness. So technically, is what you feel when you are happy but another bad feeling (like pain or sadness) tinges that amazing moment. Which can happy pretty often in this kind of relationship. Why? Well… because of the distance (Duh, Melissa!).
1. Constantly thinking about your significant other
Thinking about them is the best thing ever. You bring back all those amazing days together or those funny and deep conversations you have with each other. Either way, it’s all good until you realize that you aren’t with him or her at the moment. That alone can make you sigh a few times.
2. When You can’t spend birthdays together
We constantly miss important dates. It can be Christmas, anniversaries or something else. So when that happens we feel a little torn. Most times we can’t travel to see our loved ones for those special days, like birthdays, and we end up singing “Happy Birthday” in front of a camera.
Definitely, a happy moment that gets tinged by the distance (or mostly, by expensive plane tickets).
3. You enjoy every moment you have together
When you are finally together, you know you have to cherish every minute you have. Even if you fight during the visit! In a way, you end up appreciating those arguments you have in person. Way better than fighting over text! So when you are having the time of your life making new memories together, you at the same time know that won’t last forever. You know that eventually, you will have to go back to your hometown.
Talk about bittersweet moments…
4. Not being able to make out after a fight
Let’s be honest here. Who hasn’t thought about doing this after an argument? You are craving for some contact with your significant other. A hug, a kiss or something more. You want to be with him or her to feel again that connection that was broken with the discussion.
Why can’t we teleport already? It should be a thing already!
5. When the memories of you together thrive
You are minding in your own business, when suddenly something happens that makes you remember a certain moment with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It happens to me often. I could be out with my friends and the song that makes me remember a certain moment with my boyfriend starts. Automatically makes make me feel melancholic.
Thinking about how happy I was that day and how much we enjoyed our day together brings some feelings I wish I could stop. It makes want to go back in time. Or simple go visit my boyfriend again.
6. Not having an internet connection to communicate
We all can agree that long-distance communication is way easier these days. Imagine waiting months for a single letter? That sounds crazy! Now we not only have texts, we have the opportunity to video chat which makes the relationship more easier to bare. I mean… at least you can see you love one in real time!
But, what happens when the internet connection is low? or when simple technology is not on your side and WiFi isn’t connecting? Or even worst! You are in a place without any kind of signal. So yes, with can communication almost without a problem, but when that happens brings out the worst feelings. Why can’t we just talk in person? That’s why this is part of the list of bittersweet moments.
7. Having deep conversations
You know those moments when you want to celebrate something together or you simply want the comfort of your loved one, and you can’t do that because of the distance? Well, we have learned how to deal with those moments the best way we could. If we can’t be physically together we make it work through a phone or computer.
What we do instead of going somewhere, is to try our best to express our feelings. Open our hearts and explain how happy or sad we feel. I have to admit that I love those deep conversations where we just talk about our feelings. It’s so fulfilling! We make sure to communicate the best way we can. In the long run, that’s a benefit!
When you can’t spend your time together physically. You learn how to make the most of the distance.
8. Understanding that not being together is beneficial too
Everyone needs their space, and not because you don’t see each other in person means you have to be glued to your phone. You also have a life, friends and many activities to enjoy alone. So don’t feel bad if you weren’t able to answer a text fast. You were doing something else, and that’s fine too.
So again, if you don’t get a tet back, don’t get annoyed. The other person is just busy. Not ignoring you. Or, if your imagination runs wild, definitely not cheating on you.
9. When you see other couples together
It’s not like I try to avoid them, but it makes me so sad looking at them smiling and holding hands and doing exactly what I would do in their shoes. This is one of the bittersweet moments I hate the most. I have a boyfriend and I can’t do what the rest is doing, and it makes my heart sink a little.
10. Trying to send a gift to your boyfriend/girlfriend
Why it has to be so expensive? I just want to send a package of cookies! Do I really want to pay almost extra $50 for a couple of things that cost me less than $10? No, I don’t. If shipping fees were more affordable I would send my boyfriend so many things! Being in different countries definitely makes it more difficult.
It’s just ridiculous. I hate having to wait until I see him to him a simple gift. Months can pass until one of us can travel.
11. Having the experience to travel a lot
Traveling can be so much fun. Going to new places and in general, the process is very fulfilling, and having your significant other somewhere else is the perfect excuse to start packing and take the first flight you can. Although, a part of you wish you hadn’t had to go somewhere so far to be with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s just not fair. Bittersweet moments like this can make you feel a little down.
12. Planning your next trip to see each other
It can be so hard to make everything work. You need money, time and… other things, like visas and passports. The logistics to see each other is very important. One person can in one date, the other has to work those same days. Both agree on the dates, the plane tickets are super expensive. So much to have in mind!
But we can’t deny it’s all worth it at the end.
13. Counting the days to see each other
Yay! So we finally have the tickets. Now we wait! How long? A month, two? Three weeks? Whatever it is, you are so ready to go that you start planning everything you need for your trip. The waiting might not be so long, but in our heads, the date takes longer than it normally would.
Even though it can take forever for that date to arrive, we need the reminder that at least we have a date we can wait for!
14. When you finally see each other
The first two times I went to see my boyfriend, I would constantly think about the day I would have to leave. Because a week or 10 days was never enough. In my head, I would be like: “Okay, five more days, I still can enjoy”. It can be so annoying to do it, but I also couldn’t help it.
Now I just try to forget that, so I made myself leave those thoughts behind. It’s not nice to have the daily reminder. So my advice is: enjoy even if you can be together for a few hours!
15. Saying goodbye
Wherever that happens, your house or airport. You know that the goodbye it’s just a see you soon. You must remind yourself that. If you made there once, you can definitely make it work many more. Goodbyes are sad so it’s better to set your mind into thinking that it won’t be long until you see him or her again.
If you really believe it will come true!